People are constantly shoulding themselves. As I go through my life and coach more and more clients, I’ve become hyper-aware of the constant self-harm via “should.” You should do this, you should not do that. The use of should has become so ingrained in our everyday language that most of us don’t realize how often we use it and we definitely don’t see the effect it has on the people with whom we are communicating. Shoulds are not only confusing and convoluting messages to your kids, in a business context, they are a way to not actually address what you should or should not do. Stop the madness.
Hitting your head on a ceiling of any kind will leave a bump. I learned early in my career that it is not worth sticking around a company that refuses to crack its glass ceiling for you. Take matters into your own hands and take a chance at an alternate route. In other words, move out to move up.